Sharing Knowledge

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One of the challenges of being in an interracial relationship, is knowing the differences between each culture, and recognizing the similarities.

When I first met my husband, we were worlds apart; I was learning in detail the full extent of my history, while he on the other hand was just learning what interest him. That's okay.

There were something's that would be considered taboo in his culture (or specific family), such as a man wearing green on his head, and in my family we never give a watch or clock to another person (it just ain't done).

But one of the other challenges that we have is navigating through each of our histories, and understanding them. I have a saying (okay--one of many): to understand why someone behaves or thinks the way they do, you must look into their history. Not from a critical point of view, but from a sympathetic point of view. You may not always agree with their opinions, but at least you understand their frame of mind for having it.

So in the many years that we've been together (can't believe its been a decade), we have slowly been teaching each other our customs and history.

From my point of view, I find what I'm learning very interesting, and I can see how I will try my best to keep some of the traditions alive with my daughter.

From my husband's point of view, he didn't know the full extent of my family's history and my history as a whole. Every time we exchange knowledge, he says he's learning far more interesting things than was taught in school.

However, exchanging information can be bitter sweet; you can become aware of things that are not so positive, and if you are weak, they can bring you down.

Regardless of the challenges, it's best that we at least try to understand each other, good or bad, and accept that person completely. We've been through so many issues as a couple, that at the end of the day, all the problems that was thrown (friends backing out of our lives, people saying vulgar things) in our way only straighten our relationship.

Even though we come from different parts of the world, if you got to know us, you'll see we are pretty laid back and easy to get along with people.

Regardless of race, I think that is an excellent relationship.

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