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ashleigh
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I didn't see any other topics so I figured I'd start one. Hopefully I get some responses. I live in Pittsburgh, PA. It's a pretty small city and very country. But I have noticed more Asian people in the area; I believe most of them are Chinese. Many of them seem friendly, but as far as relationships go they tend to stick to their own. The few that date outside of their race, from what I can tell, go for a White partner. What I wanted to know is how Asian Americans view African Americans compared to Caucasians. Is it a media thing? Do shades of color define the way they see beauty? And if anyone has a question for a Black woman I'd be happy to answer.

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I know for fact there's a

I know for fact there's a stigma attached to skin color in Asian culture that more or less comes down to materialism. This mentality is passed down from older generations and may have some media influence mixed in in this day and age. In the old days, the darker your skin, the more you were out in the sun and were hence a farmer (and most likely not-so-well off financially). Nobles/royalty (i.e. the rich) had light skin because they weren't exposed to too much sun, so the skin tone thing gave way to a class issue. This mentality I think works in conjunction with the media image of the 'ranks' of different races.

I live by Los Angeles; we have everybody here, even Asian natives, so there are plenty of Asian guys for me to choose from. But the guys dating outside their race (i.e. white girls) actually outnumber the guys who don't (by a very small margin, but still).

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Shadeism

Here is a video on it http://www.blasianton.com/node/49

This is world wide. I also believe that this stems from Europeans conquering the land way back when. In defeat, some people might accept their current fate as the truth and think that "white" is just better period!

Till this day, in modern times, some of us still have that mentality ingrained in us, that the closer to "white" you are the more "superior" you will be.

We as a community must over come this negative way of thinking. Some people will even go as far as to bleach their own skin to achieve superficial superiority. I personally believe that healing ourselves from within is the one true path. Who is with me in spreading the Blasianton philosophy?

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So True

I think there are a lot of misunderstandings and misconceptions out there which makes it even harder. Sites like this are a great way to get past all of that and hopefully to be able to create something truly meaningful and beautiful. I'm from Kentucky and will be moving to Las Cruces, NM so it's really hard to be able to meet any Asian men. I'm still hoping though.

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Well you have one thing going

Well you have one thing going for you already, you have plenty of AM around you.

Down to the point: Chinese men tend not to venture out of there comfort zone for whatever reason. Actually there are too many reason; but once they do, it is to usually someone with a light complexion. I think it is just ingrained into the Chinese mentality that lighter complexions have it financially easier in life; or you can just call it what it is, racism.

As you may have noticed, the Blasian movement has began. To counteract racism or ignorance, these people has to be educated. I am glad that websites like Blasianton.com exist. Now we have our own place of community where we can share and educate anyone that is will and interested.

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You have a good point. It's

You have a good point. It's good to have these websites to help open people's minds because it's sad to think about the things can be missed out on just because someone was uneducated.

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Yes once back in my college

Yes once back in my college years (1990's), my friend said that some Asians believe if they date out of their race their first option is to date someone white because that's the next best choice in terms of some sort of hierarchy way of thinking.  Usually steming from the older generation's belief, which they try to pass on to their children.