If there's such a thing as soul mates....

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Well, I am a black woman. As of recently, I've been wondering if there really is such a thing as soul mates.

If there really do exists soul mates, then my perfect soul mate would have to be a leader, confident and charismatic and even just a little bit geeky. He'd have a wonderful sense of humor and would have an endless amount of patience (cause I think he'd need it dealing with me). He'd appreciate the fact that I can sometimes be a little weird and understand that I have mood swings and not take my bad moods seriously. Actually, he'd be the kind of guy that completely ignores me when I'm having temper tantrums and come swooping in ready to have fun again when I'm back to my happy self. My perfect soul mate would have his head and life together, knows what he wants out of life and go for it. My perfect soul mate would be creative or at least appreciate creativity. We'd each have our own things that we can enjoy separately as well as things in common. He would know when to be serious and when to let it go. He'd be open-minded and considerate. Spontaneous and adventurous. And quite witty with clever responses to the trick questions I tend to throw from time to time.

I guess - my ideal soul mate isn't just like me. He's actually really different from me yet somehow just like me, if that makes me sense.

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I Believe There Are

You just described a lot of women including myself LOL. I do believe there are soul mates but as you've said it takes an open mind and an open heart to find that person. I also think that we sometimes allow our past hurts to interfere in finding that special someone. Sometimes if you look too hard then you never find it. That's not to say that we should ignore opportunities either. The biggest assets to have are hope and optimism and I know that we, too will find happiness as our founder here has.

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Yeah, that's true. It might

Yeah, that's true. It might help if I go out some but these days I just don't find myself interested in going out. It's almost become repetitive, right down to the type of guys I meet, that sometimes I can't help but laugh at the situation. Past hurts may play a minor role in my outlook, but I would like to think very minor and mostly over it by now. But you're right, i should remain optimistic.

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I hear ya

I believe that there is a soul mate for each and every one of us. I also believe that not every one finds there soul mate in one life time. (Yes, I believe in reincarnation.) Being open-minded does help in finding ones' soul mate.

As you know, the term soul mate literally means your other half; a person that connects with you in heart, body, mind, and soul. Also, a soul mate does not necessarily mean a love interest; it can also mean a best friend.

From my own life experience, my wife and I were never really 100% compatible. It took a lot of time and patients for our relationship and marriage to mature to where it is now. With any relationship, love interest or professional, communication and open-mindedness is the key to building any long lasting and meaningful relationship.

I hope that my answer helps you.
I have also posted some resource links that you may find useful.

About Us > Resources from the Founder

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http://blasianton.com/node/29

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Well, it may take me many

Well, it may take me many life times before I find my soul mate. I've always felt like I don't have one. I want to believe in soul mates but I've never been able to shake that feeling. When I think about it, it's actually a pretty lonely feeling. I try to remain cheerful though and hope for a better role of the dice next lifetime (cause I believe in reincarnation too).

But even if I never meet my soul mate, I still hope for stable relationships, personally and professionally. I will check out the resources.

Thank you!